Do you remember hearing back in the old days when divorce was something rarely happened? Fast forward to today and divorce happens almost every day for countless reasons in every state within the United States. Keep in mind that problems and divorce just don’t happen overnight.
Fighting over and over mostly about the same things
Every married couple fights, that is normal. You cant possibly live under the same roof and not fight. The problem occurs when fighting doesn’t end and neither can see the other point of view. Essential there is no respect for the other person. Over time this becomes a problem, the feeling of hopelessness can start. Partners can even wonder if they are in the right relationship.
Spending more time apart
We get it, most people don’t have enough time in the day. between kids, work, and dinner time is always an issue. However, when couples spend less time together over long periods of time it can be a problem.
Essentially the married couple can literally let their marriage slip away and start living separate lives still while living under the same roof. Couples may not even realize this is happening and can be a real problem if kept unchecked.
Your sex life disappears
A clear red flag is when a couple had a normal sex life and over time it disappears. Being intimate is part of a healthy and happy marriage. If you have noticed that your sex life has slowed down considerably out of the blue or completely stopped this could be a problem and a red flag that shouldn’t be ignored.
Thinking about an affair
If either you or your partner is thinking about having an affair this is a big problem. This is a big sign that your marriage is in trouble. There are many temptations during a marriage. Looking for attention, filling a void, looking for better and exciting sex, the list goes on.
Regardless of the reasons having an affair is a big issue for a marriage. Having these thoughts should let you know that changes need to happen with your marriage to try and get it back on the right track.
Other common warning signs your marriage is in trouble
- Constant nitpicking
- Fights escalate out of control quickly
- Fighting in front of kids often
- Detach emotionally
- Nothing nice to say to each other
- Not talking about problems and feelings
- Never agree on anything
- Intimacy is low or none existent
- No trust
- No time for each other
- Lying and keeping secrets
- Considered or have cheated
Dont wait to seek professional help
Most people wait until their marriage is beyond repair. Don’t do this. If you see signs your marriage is in trouble try and receive help from marriage counseling to help get your marriage back on track. Professional can help guide you and your partner through communications that otherwise would be impossible. Remember a good therapist will not side with one partner over the other but instead help connect both of you with negative patterns.