For many reasons, you may have lost contact with your mom or you may have been adopted and wanting to know if there is a way to find your mom. There are many ways to go about this and some of the easiest avenues to check would be to search online to gather as much information as possible.
How do I find my mom? Start by accessing data from a public records search service. With this method and any others, you would have to have some information like your mother’s name or even a blood family member’s name to start.
Even if you are not ready to contact your mother you still can try and find out information about your mom by inputting her name in the search box below if you know it.
How do I find my mom?
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This is how to find your mom by using a public records search service to help gather information. Depending on how much information you already have will also determine how long this process might take and how successful it could be.
- Gather all the information you can on your mom
This step would be the most time consuming for the person that was either adopted or abandoned and has had no contact with their mom and was not told about any information about his or her mother. Gather as much information as you can from your adopted parents or from blood relatives.
- Use a public records search service
Once you have a first and last name it is time to use a search service to see if you can find more information on your mom. Run her first and last name through the above service. You can find relatives, contact information like emails and phone numbers, address data, and much more.
- Can't find any information try your father's name
If you cannot find any information or you are not sure about your mother's last name you can try a relative's name or your father's name if you know it.
- Making contact
Please make sure you are ready to contact your mother mentally. Depending on the situation this could be a shocking step that you may not be ready for. Realy think about this step and what you want to accomplish. Remember there is a chance that your mother does not want to have contact with you, you need to be prepared for this.
What kind of information can you find running a background check on your mom?
When you run a background check on someone you can expect to find public records that are open to the public. These records can be many different types of information buy you can expect to find the following types of public records when you try and find information on your mom.
- Phone numbers
- Criminal records
- Arrest records
- Asset information
- Social media profiles
- Birth records
- And more
If I find my mom, how do I contact her?
Okay, you found your mom, now what? This step can be nerve wrenching for some, especially if you have never spoken to your mom. Take your time and really think out what you would like to say to her.
Remember, things may not go as you plan, in fact, your mom may not be receptive to you and you contacting her. You need to plan for this as it could happen.
Try not to let your emotions get in the way of what you want to say, give yourself time to think about what you are trying to convey to your mom when you reach out. What are some of your goals? Do you want to try and reestablish a relationship? Or maybe you are just looking for closure to why things ended? Either way, the process should be thought out completely before you reach out to your mom.
Some things to keep in mind when you contact your mom.
- This most likely will be a shock for your mom
- She may not respond right away to you contacting her
- You may not get the answers your looking for
- She may not respond at all to you contacting her
So, let’s say you find your mom and she is responsive and you want to meet. Try doing this in a public place and let someone know what and when you are meeting her. Even though this is your mother and she is blood she can still be a stranger to you if you haven’t had any contact with her within your life.
Remember to take things slow, think everything through before you contact your mom and be prepared for possible rejection. However, finding out where your mom is and having the chance to build a relationship is something that very well could happen if you don’t rush into things.